Roses are red, violets are blue, I’m not sure how best to divorce you…

Roses are red, violets are blueRoses are red, violets are blue, I’m not sure how best to divorce you…..

This Valentine’s day you may be considering untying the knot that you tied together with your partner all those years ago. The knot you thought would always be.  You may be talking about divorce rather than whispering sweet nothings this February.  We all know however that unlike those Valentine’s messages, in reality and sadly, love doesn’t always last.

But how do you go about untying that knot?  How best can you seek to unravel the threads of your lives together, of your children’s lives and other family members too, without either causing or being on the receiving end of pain and destruction?

In your heart you know that it is better not to cut what you can untie, especially when you have children. You know that your parental relationship will extend far into the future, well after your personal relationship with your partner is over.

But we all know that, even at the best of times, it is hard to deal with things well when we are angry or upset.  Keeping the practical aspects of life in place and functioning even on a basic level, can seem an impossible task in more trying times.  When you are contemplating a separation or have actually separated, relationships at work, school, home can often suffer. Together with dealing with the worry of how to sort out your own future and your children’s futures, things can easily just reach a point of being all too much.   All too often this can blur your vision as to how you can deal with the practical issues on divorce or separation in the best possible way.

But remember….A Valentine’s day divorce doesn’t have to be a Valentine’s day massacre…..

Family mediation can help untie the knot in a way that is sensitive to your individual needs, desires, concerns and even fears whilst keeping the focus on how best to move forward towards solutions which suit the entire family.  Our accredited family mediators are skilled professionals who will guide you both in joint problem solving , so that you can  work out how to divorce or separate ‘well’, how to reach a fair and sustainable financial settlement and how to remain on good terms as parents into the future.

We have developed a step by step mediation process that is then modified slightly and personalised to the needs of each and every family we work with. If a kinder and more dignified divorce is what you seek, then the personalised step by step mediation process offered by New Landscape Family Mediation might be right for you.

So whilst you may be looking at divorce this year, rather than Valentine’s, you can find a better way. 

If you would like to learn more about how to untie the knot in a way that won’t destroy you or your family in the process, please telephone the office on 01279 211657 for a fully confidential and free, no obligation discussion of your needs and one of our mediators will talk you through our step by step mediation process.

Carolyn Hanes

Carolyn Hanes

At first glance Carolyn Hanes appears the archetypal legal professional. Beyond her many qualifications and years of experience in Family Law however lies the heart of a classical musician and poet. Originally from the Lake District, Carolyn’s love of nature vies constantly with music in her soul for top place, and best passion. Her working life over the years has been dedicated to finding a better way to help families in transition.
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