The secret to happiness after divorce does not lie (contrary to the belief of many), in how well you did in the settlement. The secret to living happily after divorce lies in what we see of ourselves when we look back later at the process.
If what we see is a mean spirited miser who was out to get whatever they could in any way they could get it, or a vindictive so and so who punished their ex at every turn and slowly but surely demonstrated to the children that their other parent is an awful human being who cannot be trusted then we will likely carry that shame and guilt for the rest of our lives.
This does not mean that we should be doormats who let others take advantage of our good nature. I’m not talking about turning the other cheek or offering your coat to the person who is trying to steal your shirt. I’m talking about not starting that type of behaviour in the first place. I’m talking about how we behave when we spot it in others.
Family mediation offers a solution to the traditional adversarial court processes so long seen in divorce. The traditional method sees you and your former partner lawyer up with the best legal representative you can afford and preparing for battle. It is a process littered with letters to and from your respective representatives that usually result in winding you both up even more than you were before, only this time it’s also costing you £125.00 a pop!
Fortunately, there is a better way. Family mediation with a Family Mediation Council accredited mediator can help you and your former partner reach a fair and sensible financial solution for a fraction of the cost of the more traditional methods and in far less time as well. At New Landscape Mediation we can help you both achieve this solution in a way that enables you both to retain your honour and dignity. In a way that you can be later proud of when you discuss this with your children once they reach an appropriate adult age. In a way that will mean you won’t have to slink around the school at parent’s evenings and hear the whispers behind your back.
If you would like more information about how New Landscape Mediation can help you crack the secret of living happily after divorce, call us now on 01279 211 657 for a confidential, no-obligation discussion of your needs.