Is mediation the unrecognised life saver? When compared to the daily heroics of nurses, firefighters and paramedics, certainly not. In fact, under the shadows of these heroes, mediators don’t come anywhere near to being true life-savers. But there is far more to living than simply being alive, and the work we do as Family Mediation Council Accredited Mediators most definitely has an impact there.
You don’t have to look too far to find a book describing the end of a relationship feeling like death itself. But there isn’t a great deal written about those who successfully survive the end of a relationship, only to see the death of their savings and dignity at the hands of a bitter and senseless legal battle.
Divorce mediation isn’t about performing mouth to mouth resuscitation or CPR on a marriage, it’s about hooking up an IV to your hard fought savings and personal dignity and ensuring that these stay alive to go on and live and thrive another day.
Accredited family mediators work with families to stop the financial and parenting deaths that occur in the months following the end of a relationship at the hands of a bloody legal battle. The cost of family breakdown is already high enough without adding unpayable solicitor bills and self-esteem to the body count.
The idea of sitting down to create a fair, equitable and workable financial settlement with a family mediator might to some seem too high a personal price to pay, but if you take into consideration the average cost of between £35,000 and £60,000 each to bankroll a fight to have an officer of the court decide your future for you, the mediated settlement starts to make a lot more sense. And if this isn’t enough to convince you, how do you feel about the idea of these very same strangers telling you how you and your former partner will co-parent for the next 10 years or so?
So, is mediation the unrecognised life saver? We think so. New Landscape Mediation’s accredited family mediators can help you and your former partner devise a solution to your need for a fair and workable financial settlement that will enable you both to do far more than simply still be alive after divorce. For more information, please contact us on 011279 211 657 for a fully confidential, no obligation discussion of your needs.