Thank God for celebrities, that’s all I can say. A couple of minutes on Amazon reveals that first Duncan Banlantine, followed by Katie Price (in fact she did it twice!), and now Anthea Turner have all thrown their hats into the ring of writing about their divorces. In fairness to Duncan and Katie however (though I must admit its hard for me to be fair to Katie), their books are more about telling the story rather than, as Anthea is doing, trying to be a support mechanism to others who may be going through this very difficult process.
I can’t really be too critical of these literary efforts though. Divorce is becoming a fairly universal experience and these celebrities are simply writing about things that their “fans” have probably experienced in some way. It wouldn’t be accurate to suggest that all of us will get divorced, but it is certainly accurate to state that at some point in our lives all of us will be affected by divorce – even if that is only watching a loved one go through it.
Historically, divorce has been a battleground. Hard won (and lost) battles of finance and children. This, coupled with hard lost battles of bank accounts and even harder losses of self-respect have made divorce one of the most destructive experiences most of us will ever encounter. Thankfully however (and yes, even the celebrities get a thanks in this), this is changing.
As a Family Mediation Council Accredited (FMCA) mediator I am working with an ever increasing number of couples who recognise that the hardest fight they need to have is in coming to terms with the fact that their relationship has broken down irretrievably. Having come to this very difficult conclusion, they do not now wish to make things even worse by blowing their life savings on a bitter legal battle as well. Neither do they wish for an unknown social services officer making suggestions to a judge on where the children should live and how they should be parented.
Mediation offers a real alternative to the battle ground of divorces past. An FMCA mediator can help divorcing couples develop a fair and workable financial settlement at a fraction of the time and cost of a traditional divorce campaign. If you would like more information about how mediation can save you time, money and heartache in your divorce, please contact New Landscape Mediation for a fully confidential, no obligation discussion of your needs on 01279 211657.