Should I stay, or should I go? If you are on this page, reading this blog, then there is absolutely no doubt whatsoever that this is a familiar question and you’ve likely been toying with the idea of asking for a divorce – possibly for quite some time. For some, the hesitations that accompanies asking for a divorce are caused by fears about what might happen to the relationship between your children and your (soon to be) former partner if you separate. For others the idea of asking for a divorce brings tremendous concerns about whether you could survive financially if you split. In pointing out those two concerns, I am well aware that I have boiled the whole difficulty about asking for a divorce into two, extremely pragmatic points. Importantly, I have done this on purpose. This is because for those who are at the point of asking themselves the stay/go question, and buried within it there are no factors of “but I still love my husband/wife”, or “I don’t know how I could ever live without him/her”, or any other personal factors to do with the person you married, then that is a rather telling factor.
For those people asking the stay/go question who are now only worried about the practicalities of asking for a divorce and what that might mean to their lives, and not about losing the person they married, then it may be that its only a matter of time before the question has to be decided simply because the pain of not asking it will eventually become too much.
If you are asking yourself the stay/go question, and you are not sure of the possible ramifications of asking for a divorce, and how you can find solutions for them, then you may find that speaking to an accredited family mediator would be useful. New Landscape Mediation offers an initial conversation with an accredited family mediator designed to give you a clear understanding of your options should asking for a divorce become a real possibility. Understanding how you could go about the process of separating your finances in a fair and workable manner, as well as creating a strong co-parenting plan designed around the needs of your children may well be helpful in answering the stay/go question for your situation.
If you would like to speak with an accredited family mediator to gain more information to help you with your “should I stay, or should I go?” question, or what asking for a divorce might mean for you, then please call New Landscape Mediation on 01279 211 657 for a fully confidential discussion of your needs.