DIY divorce

DIY divorce

DIY divorce; Lots of divorcing couples are put off going down a ‘legal route’ and engaging lawyers for fear of massive costs. They simply cannot afford it ….In addition, the internet is steeped with information about DIY divorces, quick and cheap fixes to ending your marriage. And anyway, it can’t be that tricky can it?[…]

Don’t get stuck in the divorce lift

Don’t get stuck in the divorce lift

This takes effort – not getting stuck. It is easy to say and not so easy to do. And it’s so tempting isn’t it? Imagine you’ve just stepped into an escalator. Level one is fairly peaceful and level 20 is nearer to all out warfare. We all know how it feels to be in a[…]

It takes two: Lawyers and Mediators working together

It takes two: Lawyers and Mediators working together

Very often it can seem as though you either have the choice of pursuing a legal route on divorce or a mediated route. Either you and your lawyers broker a deal between themselves on your behalves, or you sit with your ex in a room trying to pull something together yourselves. But did you know[…]

A DIY Divorce that works for YOU

A DIY Divorce that works for YOU

Are you loooking for a DIY Divorce solution that works for YOU? It’s a bit of a messy world out there, and divorce is no exception. There are ever increasing choices as to how to go about things and those choices can be overwhelming. If you are going through a relationship breakdown, once you’ve made[…]

Is your relationship off the Richter scale

Avoiding emotional earthquakes

We all mediate; at home, in the workplace, with colleagues, friends, family and children. It is the way we facilitate and cope with life’s daily ups and downs. Mediation is an invaluable means of translating any sort of conflict into cooperation and an opportunity to resolve, smoothing the way for us all to live alongside[…]

Fight or Flight and the 21st century human

Fight, flight and the 21st century human

You don’t often see a movie where the main protagonists arrive on the scene saying ‘we come to negotiate – how about it?’ Generally, the usual plot structure begins with those protagonists forming two or more opposing camps, swiftly followed up with a general plotting of ways to fight one another to win; over territory,[…]

Mediation is making its mark on the world

Mediation is making its mark – The path from the destructive to the effective

Mediation is making its mark. It is making its mark on conflicts of great magnitude and taking place every day. There are numerous and ongoing examples of how behind the scenes conflict mediators have facilitated large scale political and social change. Take for instance the Church of England’s conflict over women bishops and the subsequent[…]

Love and Hate Two sides of the same coin

Love and Hate: two sides of the same coin

When a couple separates, it is impossible to separate the love from the hate. You cannot simply turn off the long held affection for someone like switching off a tap. So there will be times when you ‘love to hate’ your ex and in the same breath ‘hate to love’. So what can be done?[…]

Pandoras Box

Divorce can be like opening Pandora’s Box

Divorce can be like opening Pandora’s Box. As Pandora’s Box was opened, out poured all the destructive evils of the world with it – in a desperate attempt to shut the box, Pandora could only do so when all but one thing had escaped into the ether – that one thing that lurked at the bottom[…]

Are you reading me? How family mediation improves communication

Are you reading me? How family mediation improves communication

It was George Bernard Shaw who remarked that ‘the single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place’. We all talk – and we all think we listen – but do we always really hear?  Families are complex and they operate in a messy and imperfect world. With the busy lives[…]