Pandoras Box

Divorce can be like opening Pandora’s Box

Divorce can be like opening Pandora’s Box. As Pandora’s Box was opened, out poured all the destructive evils of the world with it – in a desperate attempt to shut the box, Pandora could only do so when all but one thing had escaped into the ether – that one thing that lurked at the bottom[…]

Maintaining a relationship with your children when you live away from their home

Maintaining a relationship with your children when you live away from their home

Maintaining a relationship with your children when you live away from their home is not easy. It takes a great deal of concerted effort that doesn’t always yield immediate tangible results. But, if you do make this effort, there is no reason that you can’t only maintain your relationship with your kids, but actually make[…]

Letting your children continue to love the person you no longer do

Letting your children continue to love the person you no longer do

Letting your children continue to love the person you no longer do isn’t easy. Many people feel hurt and/or betrayed by our former partners and it can be hard to separate our feelings from the needs of our children. It can be difficult to remember that the person we no longer love is, and always[…]

Is sticking together like glue really the right thing to do

Is sticking together like glue, really the right thing to do?

Is a family sticking together like glue really the right thing to do? We’ve all heard it. “We’re staying together for the sake of the children”. I certainly know that I’ve been hearing this kind of idea for as long as I can remember. But is this age-old wisdom really thing right thing to be[…]

Divorce poison must stay in the bottle because children deserve no less

Divorce poison must be left in the bottle because children deserve no less

Divorce poison must be left in the bottle because children deserve no less.  Recent studies published in the Journal of Family Psychology have looked at outcomes when parents undermine one another, compete for their child’s attention, criticise one another in front of the child and give opposing directives.  When a father undermines a mother’s parenting[…]