Thank God for celebrities

Thank God for celebrities

Thank God for celebrities, that’s all I can say. A couple of minutes on Amazon reveals that first Duncan Banlantine, followed by Katie Price (in fact she did it twice!), and now Anthea Turner have all thrown their hats into the ring of writing about their divorces. In fairness to Duncan and Katie however (though[…]

Understanding mediation outcome documents

Understanding mediation outcome documents

In my daily practice, I spend a fair amount of time helping clients in their understanding of mediation outcome documents. Statements of Outcome, Memorandums of Understanding, Open Financial Statements… Just what are these documents and why are they important for clients – particularly if they are not yet legally binding? As a Family Mediation Council[…]

We’re staying together for the sake of the kids

We’re staying together for the sake of the kids

“We’re staying together for the sake of the kids”. This is a sentiment couple counsellors and family therapists hear a great deal. It is usually said by couples who have reached the end of the road in their ability to love each other, but who are still able to co-exist – just. The idea is[…]

Solicitor assisted mediation, can it work

Solicitor assisted mediation, can it work?

Solicitor assisted mediation, can it work? The short answer is: Yes, it most definitely can, and does. The longer answer is: Yes, but it does require some effort on the part of all professionals concerned. At New Landscape Mediation, one common concern we hear from clients is regarding the fact that plans for settlement reached[…]

Is your relationship off the Richter scale

Avoiding emotional earthquakes

We all mediate; at home, in the workplace, with colleagues, friends, family and children. It is the way we facilitate and cope with life’s daily ups and downs. Mediation is an invaluable means of translating any sort of conflict into cooperation and an opportunity to resolve, smoothing the way for us all to live alongside[…]

Fight or Flight and the 21st century human

Fight, flight and the 21st century human

You don’t often see a movie where the main protagonists arrive on the scene saying ‘we come to negotiate – how about it?’ Generally, the usual plot structure begins with those protagonists forming two or more opposing camps, swiftly followed up with a general plotting of ways to fight one another to win; over territory,[…]

Bungee jumping and divorce cut from the same cloth

Bungee jumping and divorce: cut from the same cloth?

Bungee jumping and divorce: are these activities cut from the same cloth? Most people enjoy a bit of a thrill every now and again. We find these excitements and thrills in a wide array of places, and we are each free to choose the degree of buzz and excitement we wish to experience dependent upon[…]

Playing the odds: Gamblers and divorce

Playing the odds: Gamblers and divorce

Playing the odds: gamblers and divorce. I remember an incredibly cheesy Kenny Rogers song from the late 70s (come to think of is, did Kenny do any songs that weren’t cheesy?) about a gambler that contained the lyric: “You’ve got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them”. I suppose there is[…]

Love and Hate Two sides of the same coin

Love and Hate: two sides of the same coin

When a couple separates, it is impossible to separate the love from the hate. You cannot simply turn off the long held affection for someone like switching off a tap. So there will be times when you ‘love to hate’ your ex and in the same breath ‘hate to love’. So what can be done?[…]

Pandoras Box

Divorce can be like opening Pandora’s Box

Divorce can be like opening Pandora’s Box. As Pandora’s Box was opened, out poured all the destructive evils of the world with it – in a desperate attempt to shut the box, Pandora could only do so when all but one thing had escaped into the ether – that one thing that lurked at the bottom[…]