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Mediation, the easier, softer way?

Is mediation the easier, softer way of reaching a mutually acceptable financial settlement for your divorce? Is mediation the easier softer way of developing a co-parenting plan after you separate that ensures that the needs of your children are placed at the centre rather than the needs or fears of either parent? The answer to[…]

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The penalties for breaking your marriage vow

What are the penalties for breaking your marriage vow? Well, it usually surprises people who feel that their partner has done just that, to find that in the eyes of the law, there are no penalties whatsoever. This fact causes more upset and long legal battles in what is somewhat incorrectly called “The Family Justice[…]

Sledgehammer to Crack a Nut?

Sledgehammer to Crack a Nut?

Fairness after Divorce. Financial support – yes or no? Separating is one thing. Financially separating is quite another. One of the questions you will both need to look at during your discussions when divorcing is whether you can be independent of each other financially. A ‘clean break’ is the aim wherever possible; in fact it[…]

The importance of disclosure in a fair divorce settlement

The importance of disclosure in a fair divorce settlement

What is the importance of disclosure in a fair divorce settlement? This is much easier to answer by looking in a different direction first. When playing poker, if you believe that one of the other players at the table is stashing aces up their sleeve, it is very unlikely you’ll feel comfortable betting on your[…]

Goodness gracious, great balls of fire

(Goodness Gracious), Great Balls of Fire!

Great balls of fire. That is what a large number of people involved in a separation would like to see thrown at their ex partners. Anger verging on hatred is a pretty normal human emotion when we feel betrayed or abandoned. As we’ve all seen from American films with dodgy family lawyers, phrases like: “I[…]

A fair divorce settlement where does one start

A fair divorce settlement, where does one start?

A fair divorce settlement, where does one start? Well, to be honest, the best starting place for a fair divorce settlement is in the chair you’re sitting in right now. Look around you. This is the life you’ve build up over these last years. This is what your sweat and tears have gone into. You[…]