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Happy Valentine

Is Valentine’s Day your least favourite holiday?  Has another year gone by when the disappointment simply just piles up?  Maybe you’ve found a Valentine’s Day card, and it’s not even intended for you? Or maybe you are thinking what could be more romantic than to say ‘I do’ on Valentine’s Day? Data shows that from[…]

Mediation described step by step. Part 10: Children’s arrangements

Mediation described step by step. Part 10: Children’s arrangements

Family mediation is here to stay. But how does it work? What actually happens? How can you make sure the settlements reached are fair, and what do couples who mediate have to do? The purpose of this 12-part series is to attempt to answer those questions specifically – at least as it applies for those[…]

Mediation described step by step: Part 1, An overview

Mediation described step by step: Part 1, An overview

Family mediation is here to stay. But how does it work? What actually happens? How can you make sure the settlements reached are fair, and what do couples who mediate have to do? The purpose of this 12-part series is to attempt to answer those questions specifically – at least as it applies for those[…]

Is mediation, the unrecognised life saver

Is mediation, the unrecognised life saver?

Is mediation the unrecognised life saver? When compared to the daily heroics of nurses, firefighters and paramedics, certainly not. In fact, under the shadows of these heroes, mediators don’t come anywhere near to being true life-savers. But there is far more to living than simply being alive, and the work we do as Family Mediation[…]

How to save time and money in mediation

How to save time and money in mediation

How to save time and money in mediation? The easiest and most sure fire way is to make sure you clearly understand what is needed during the process of disclosure, and do a bit of the photocopying and collating yourself rather than pay a solicitor over £200 per hour to do it for you. Disclosure[…]

What is mediation worth

What is mediation worth?

What is mediation worth? How can you quantify the financial and emotional value of a successful mediation for any given family? These are surprisingly difficult questions to answer. For me, they are about as impossible to quantify as: How much money has the Thames Barrier has saved since it became operational in 1982? There is[…]

Thank God for celebrities

Thank God for celebrities

Thank God for celebrities, that’s all I can say. A couple of minutes on Amazon reveals that first Duncan Banlantine, followed by Katie Price (in fact she did it twice!), and now Anthea Turner have all thrown their hats into the ring of writing about their divorces. In fairness to Duncan and Katie however (though[…]

We’re staying together for the sake of the kids

We’re staying together for the sake of the kids

“We’re staying together for the sake of the kids”. This is a sentiment couple counsellors and family therapists hear a great deal. It is usually said by couples who have reached the end of the road in their ability to love each other, but who are still able to co-exist – just. The idea is[…]

Finding the right mediator

Finding the right mediator

Finding the right mediator for your specific needs can seem a pretty daunting task. Do you seek a large organisation or a smaller, independent worker? Do you go for a company who takes a range of legally aided clients as well as those who privately pay? Do you go for a male or a female[…]