Don’t get stuck in the divorce lift

Don’t get stuck in the divorce lift

This takes effort – not getting stuck. It is easy to say and not so easy to do. And it’s so tempting isn’t it? Imagine you’ve just stepped into an escalator. Level one is fairly peaceful and level 20 is nearer to all out warfare. We all know how it feels to be in a[…]

Invest £22,000 into your old relationship I think not

Invest £22,000 into your old relationship? I think not

What would you say if I suggested you invest £22,000 into your old relationship? “I think not” is probably an overly polite euphemism to the counter suggestion you’d actually be most likely to make! As silly as it sounds however, in the average UK divorce, this is what each party is doing. According to the[…]

Unreasonable behaviour in divorce

Unreasonable behaviour in divorce

Unreasonable behaviour in divorce. Most people seeing this phrase will assume I’m talking about the use of unreasonable behaviour in a divorce petition. The document used to apply for a divorce and the use of unreasonable behaviour as a reason in requesting the request for a divorce be granted. I’m talking about something else however.[…]

How to save time and money in mediation

How to save time and money in mediation

How to save time and money in mediation? The easiest and most sure fire way is to make sure you clearly understand what is needed during the process of disclosure, and do a bit of the photocopying and collating yourself rather than pay a solicitor over £200 per hour to do it for you. Disclosure[…]

What is mediation worth

What is mediation worth?

What is mediation worth? How can you quantify the financial and emotional value of a successful mediation for any given family? These are surprisingly difficult questions to answer. For me, they are about as impossible to quantify as: How much money has the Thames Barrier has saved since it became operational in 1982? There is[…]

Solicitor assisted mediation, can it work

Solicitor assisted mediation, can it work?

Solicitor assisted mediation, can it work? The short answer is: Yes, it most definitely can, and does. The longer answer is: Yes, but it does require some effort on the part of all professionals concerned. At New Landscape Mediation, one common concern we hear from clients is regarding the fact that plans for settlement reached[…]

Surgeons mediators and Medicine men

Surgeons, Mediators and Medicine men

Surgeons, Mediators and Medicine men. Whenever we hear these job titles, we have an immediate impression as to the type of person we’re speaking about. Surgeons are seen as highly trained specialists we entrust with our lives. Medicine men, on the other hand, are snake oil salesmeisters who dupe dim-witted customers from a horse drawn[…]

It takes two to marry, but only one to separate

It takes two to marry, but only one to separate

It takes two to marry, but only one to separate. Relationship counsellors call it a split agenda and see it all the time. One member of a couple is desperate to end things, while the other is equally desperate to work on the marriage. Making it even more difficult for the partner who is finished[…]

Because the cost of family breakdown is already high enough

Because the cost of family breakdown is already high enough

Because the cost of family breakdown is already high enough, divorce mediation offers an alternative to the traditional, solicitor led court based divorces of the past. On separation you will both face a myriad of tricky issues, from where you will live and how you will manage financially, to how much time the children will[…]