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Conflict and the Family Business

Many of us will have close families, siblings, parents whom we see fairly regularly. Some of us will also run our own businesses.  Some of us combine the two and work with our families as part of the running of a family business. In these circumstances, the interdependence of family structure can be found weaving[…]

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Mediation, the easier, softer way?

Is mediation the easier, softer way of reaching a mutually acceptable financial settlement for your divorce? Is mediation the easier softer way of developing a co-parenting plan after you separate that ensures that the needs of your children are placed at the centre rather than the needs or fears of either parent? The answer to[…]

Sledgehammer to Crack a Nut?

Sledgehammer to Crack a Nut?

Fairness after Divorce. Financial support – yes or no? Separating is one thing. Financially separating is quite another. One of the questions you will both need to look at during your discussions when divorcing is whether you can be independent of each other financially. A ‘clean break’ is the aim wherever possible; in fact it[…]

Mediation described step by step: Part 1, An overview

Mediation described step by step: Part 1, An overview

Family mediation is here to stay. But how does it work? What actually happens? How can you make sure the settlements reached are fair, and what do couples who mediate have to do? The purpose of this 12-part series is to attempt to answer those questions specifically – at least as it applies for those[…]

How do you measure success in mediation?

How do you measure success in mediation?

Sounds an easy enough question at first glance, doesn’t it? Surely it’s about finding a solution. An end point. An outcome. But when you take some time to really think about it , the question itself raises almost as many questions as answers. Fundamentally, it is really about how we, as human beings measure success.[…]

A DIY Divorce that works for YOU

A DIY Divorce that works for YOU

Are you loooking for a DIY Divorce solution that works for YOU? It’s a bit of a messy world out there, and divorce is no exception. There are ever increasing choices as to how to go about things and those choices can be overwhelming. If you are going through a relationship breakdown, once you’ve made[…]

Make it legally binding

Make it legally binding…

Make it legally binding, that’s what most people want to do after they’ve come to a mutually acceptable set of proposals in mediation. But just what is it that you need in order to make this happen? Well, the answer is simple: you need to instruct your solicitor to apply for, and obtain a Financial[…]

The adversarial illusion

The adversarial illusion

The adversarial illusion.  What do I mean by that?  The English Legal System is known as an “adversarial system” as opposed to the inquisitorial systems used in many European countries and elsewhere. Wikipedia defines the phrase as:  A legal system used in the common law countries where two advocates represent their parties’ positions before an impartial person or group of people,[…]

The cost of family breakdown

The cost of divorce

The cost of divorce. Whether these costs are felt in feelings of betrayal or the remorse of wasted years spent trying to make something work that we knew in our hearts wasn’t right anyway. More often than not, the greatest cost of divorce is to children who discover that their parents are unable to control[…]

Unreasonable behaviour in divorce

Unreasonable behaviour in divorce

Unreasonable behaviour in divorce. Most people seeing this phrase will assume I’m talking about the use of unreasonable behaviour in a divorce petition. The document used to apply for a divorce and the use of unreasonable behaviour as a reason in requesting the request for a divorce be granted. I’m talking about something else however.[…]