How will I spend thee? Let me count the ways

How will I spend thee? Let me count the ways

How will I spend thee? Let me count the ways. Let’s face it, the human cost of family breakdown is horrific. The heartbreak and loss the end of a marriage bring emotional costs that are completely incalculable, but the financial cost of divorce can be tracked quite clearly. Did you know that the average cost[…]

Thank God for celebrities

Thank God for celebrities

Thank God for celebrities, that’s all I can say. A couple of minutes on Amazon reveals that first Duncan Banlantine, followed by Katie Price (in fact she did it twice!), and now Anthea Turner have all thrown their hats into the ring of writing about their divorces. In fairness to Duncan and Katie however (though[…]

Finding the right mediator

Finding the right mediator

Finding the right mediator for your specific needs can seem a pretty daunting task. Do you seek a large organisation or a smaller, independent worker? Do you go for a company who takes a range of legally aided clients as well as those who privately pay? Do you go for a male or a female[…]

Fight or Flight and the 21st century human

Fight, flight and the 21st century human

You don’t often see a movie where the main protagonists arrive on the scene saying ‘we come to negotiate – how about it?’ Generally, the usual plot structure begins with those protagonists forming two or more opposing camps, swiftly followed up with a general plotting of ways to fight one another to win; over territory,[…]

Carolyn Hanes

Meet the Author: Carolyn Hanes

Carolyn Hanes is a regular contributor to the New Landscape Mediation blog and provides us with great insights into family mediation, mediation with children, and mediation after divorce. She is a well-respected lawyer and mediator, and holds the following qualifications: Carolyn Hanes studied music at Sheffield University 1983 – 1986 BMus(Hons) 2:1 and later went[…]

Family dispute mediation, any volunteers

Family dispute mediation, any volunteers?

Family dispute mediation, any volunteers? Well, the truth of the matter is that anybody who takes part in family mediation is there on a voluntary basis. In fact, along with Impartiality, Confidentiality, and Legal Privilege, the voluntary nature of mediation is a core tenant of the process. Nobody can safely discuss or negotiate matters for[…]

Why mediators should get accredited

Why mediators should get accredited

Why mediators should get accredited. Ok, I’ll admit it, this is a shameless personal opinion piece. Regular readers will ask “What’s so new about that?” But this piece is entirely about my personal opinion, right or wrong, as to my thoughts on Family Mediation Council Accreditation. The Family Mediation Standards Board (FMSB) state that there[…]

The difference between “Neutral” and “Impartial” in mediation

The difference between “Neutral” and “Impartial” in mediation

What is the difference between Neutral and Impartial in mediation? I get asked this question fairly regularly. It is widely known that the role of a mediator Family Mediation Council Accredited (FMCA) mediators is to be impartial. In fact, this is one of the most basic tenants to our code of practice. But being impartial[…]

Understanding the behaviour of your spouse

Understanding the behaviour of your spouse

Understanding the behaviour of your spouse is often seen as one of the oldest mysteries of them all. Why do people do the things they do? Why do we sometimes behave in ways that are so obviously contrary to our own best interests when viewed from the eyes of the other? Well, the answer to[…]

The ultimate in microwave society

The ultimate in microwave society

The ultimate in microwave society is finally here, or is it? Wevorce, a start-up phone app developer from America is launching what it sees as the divorce of the future: A smart phone app that will enable you to untie the knot from anywhere in the U.S.A (as long as you have a 3g connection[…]